The Third Side: Why We Fight and How We Can Stop

Including 10 Practical Roles We Can Play at Home, at Work, and in the World

The Third Side

Do you want to resolve conflict at home, at work, in your neighborhood, or in your community? It takes two sides to fight, but a third to stop.

In The Third Side (originally released as Getting To Peace), William Ury presents simple, effective strategies for stopping fights through a powerful alternative—the third side.

Using lessons learned from all types of conflict, including family struggles, labor strikes, and civil wars, William presents bold strategies and techniques for stopping fights.

In The Third Side, you’ll learn how to:

  • play one of ten roles that can help prevent destructive conflict
  • transform your daily battles into creative conflict
  • foster cooperation at home, at work, and in the world

View the table of contents or read a chapter from The Third Side.

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Other books by William Ury include Getting to Yes with Yourself, The Power of a Positive No, Getting to Yes, and Getting Past No.

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